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Thanks Jeana for your reminder. Without your comment I would have left my account for who knows how long? (Rhetorical question by the way.)

So okay. A while ago I was doing some thinking (crazy eh?) and I came to a realization. But first, let me tell a little story:

There was this girl who went to a new school. She didn't know anyone until a group of girls decided to befriend her. At first, things were great and she had a blast with them. They did lots of things for eachother and hung out quite often. Then later on, she noticed something. She couldn't put her finger on it exactly but there was this feeling of inequality between herself and the other girls. It was in the way they talked to her or how they interacted with her vs. eachother.

Now, when you read that, you either make up conclusions as to what the reasons are for the girls' behaviour or you leave judgements behind until you've read the entire story. Personally, I'd just leave judgements and figure out things after I've read everything. But in real life you can't do that. There just isn't enough time for it. Before you know it summer arrives, school's over and people sort out their social issues then or it gets lost in that lazy time of summer. While you're living the moment, you can't see the entire story because your life is not a finished novel. All you can do is figure out what the best action is based on the current evidence at hand. It's also important to make projections like where you think things will go and use that data to figure out what to do next. Should she stay with them? Should she find her friends from her old school whom she can be more equal with? What would she be sacrificing? What would she gain from either action?

As you go through life, and you experience numerous situations like that, you make different choices. Based on the consequences of those choices, you use those results to justify what your future actions will be.

The realization I came to was in the general concept of what friendship is. This entry is quite long and I'm running out of time so I won't explain what it is to me right now. Perhaps if we have a conversation we could make it a discussion. So my questions is, what is friendship? I know it is a very abstract question and it can go anywhere but take into account what I've written about.